RELATIONSHIPS:A FUN RELATIONSHIP EXERCISE

Relationships are so delicate isnt it!!we all have had experiences of relationships going wrong, relationship conflicts. And although we might have not meant it, still sometimes no where out of the blue, we find ourselves being stuck in relationship misunderstandings. Why does this happen?Especially when we have never intended it in the first place??

A healthy relationship requires a strong stable healthy foundation. All of us agree that a successful peaceful healthy life depends a lot on successful healthy relationships.

First of all lets understand one thing here very clearly. Just because you are having problems in your relationships does not mean  that the person has a problem or it does not mean necessarily that that person has some fault. And neither does it necessarily mean that you have any fault. It just simply means that your relationship with that person has just entered into a low vibration frequency or energy which is creating friction or conflict, which is leading to creating mistakes and faults.

In other words, you are just in a rough patch with a really lovely and a  really beautiful person, if you view this person outside of your relationship. You will definitely find that they are just as much thriving on basic qualities and needs,like love and harmony, as much as you are

In fact,this is our first and the most basic step that we have to take. Get objective about it. Its about the relationship with the person, and actually not the person itself.

Done?Sounds easy to read, but not so easy to do in practice. But we have to try and take the first step. You may ask how can I  imagine that person as beautiful or nice when that person has continuously hurt  me and is hurting me again and again?Isnt that person at fault?Isnt that person wrong?etc etc etc..

I dont blame you for having such thoughts.Because its human nature. But remember one thing ,at one point of time, there was love and  acceptance between both of you isnt it?Thats why you came into connection with that person. Even if it was a business contact. Still, you came into contact with each other for mutual give and take. Its just that the dynamics between both of you right now are rough, but that does not mean that the person is bad , because thats our perception of him or her right now. So free urself from that negative thinking. Instead, recognise that the person is unique in himself or herself and stop all the prejudices in thinking.

Next, write down the positives and negatives in your relationship. You will feel very liberating at the end after doing this exercise. Initially you may not find any positives to start with. But if you are true and honest to urself , you will certainly find atleast one positive to start with. 

Now, feel the things that you loved during the positive times.Feel them over and over again. You can definitely visualise the fruitful and positive interactions with this person even if it was a business contact.

Now imagine this.Your relationship is like a beautiful garden. Visualise your garden. A garden is always beautiful, isnt it!Full of flowers,roses, beautiful plants, trees. Lots of shade. Leaves dancing in the wind. Flowers smiling. Fragrant roses that make heads turn.

 So say to yourself this line every morning

"My relationship is like a beautiful garden. I am tending to my garden everyday with great love ,care and nurturing, and my garden is full of roses that make heads turn.I love my garden."

Do this everyday without fail.You dont necessarily need to talk to the person. You will very soon find yourself at the recieving end of astonishing surprises and success related to your relationship. And the success of one relationship will rub off on the other relationships as well,and in all spheres of your life!!In fact this will work simultaneously on all your relationships even if you arent thinking about them.

What is the foundation of a healthy relationship?
The first thing is, RESPECT.You must keep mutual respect to each other at ALL times. Without respect, there is nothing. It all starts with self respect. If you respect yourself, you will surely respect others too. Point noted?Great!! So check yourself first?Do u respect yourself at all times?Do not confuse respect with arrogance, or pride. Its just self respect, giving yourself what you deserve.

There are lots of things to ponder about this article, and about relationships. At times, its definitely fair to let go as well. But letting go with love and peace constitutes respect, and breeds only love in return. Thats the reason many people find themselves liberated and free after letting go.

Whatever we do, our goal is to stop inviting or creating any suffering in our relationships.Because, relationships are the very basis of life, and we need them in our life to grow, evolve and be a better person. There is no life without relationships, isnt it.

So, I stop here for today.We would be continuing this discussion about relationships and other thoughts and help regarding relationships. As of now, do this exercise that I have told you. Let me know how you feel after your success!And remember to write me a line!!GOOD LUCK!!STAY HAPPY!!